Love Marriage versus Arrange Marriage…..

He he he… you must be thinking ahhh one more pros and cons lecture on this endless debate… But really have you never debated on this??? Time and again this question keeps comint up which one is better and why???????

Those unlimited number of advantages and disadvantages of each of them start coming in…..

Its like asking whether Bubble Sort is good or Selection Sort is good to sort an array…. Man both are equally good choose the one that appeals to you…….

Same is true with Marriage….

I guess what matters the most is the second word of the two “MARRIAGE”…. Marriage is a just another way of giving a promise to your partner that u will be with each other through thick and thin. That you will love each other for being the individual they are. That you will support each other all through your life time… After all all of us need some one to be with us all life… Its very difficult to lead this life all alone………

Different people may have different views and likings to each of the process.. I would say choose a process which appeals most to you and simultaneously lets u not hurt the ones important to you…. You can take consensus from your loved ones while making such a decision… …..their opinion might or might not help…. I would just say never let down the ones important to you…. Always try to not to hurt them…. However at the end of the day what matters is how strongly u as an individual make a decision for your life..

After all we all are humans and mistakes might happen. What you feel is right today may not be right tomorrow. So guys rather than giving importance to the process of finding a life partner focus on the selection of the right partner for you…. Cause if that selection is wrong it may cost you a lot later……

There are still inhibitions from older generations about love marriages in Indian Society but I guess that’s a passing phase and sooner or later everyone will realize that they are pros and cons in each of the process…

So lets just get this basic funda in our head….. MARRIAGE is the important decision… Love or Arrange are just the two different methods….

I guess its high time we all should realize that what is important is making a right decision about choosing your life partner…. Rather than the process of choosing your life partner…

Do I make any sense?????? Think on it….

Moral Policing...... what are they trying to prove??????????

Moral policing by Ram Sena people in pubs of Mangalore... Hearing so much news about this... So many statements coming from different people... Read an article about it this morning... Why are they doing so?????

Why this moral policing…. What are these people trying to prove…. By doing such actions they are just making a mockery of our independence… per law each citizen is free to choose his/her lifestyle… Until someone’s lifestyle is harmless to others no one get the right to force them to change it…

Moral policing is nothing but another form of terrorism I feel…. It’s not only against women... it’s against all those who have shed their bloods to make us live in a free country… Against all those who are still struggling to maintain peace and democracy in the country…. Each and every individual is different and no one gets a right to dictate their personal terms and conditions on people’s lives.

What are they against of????? They say girls should not go on dating with boys… Why do they feel so??? What is wrong there…. As per law if a girl above 18 years of age wants to marry someone even her parents cannot force her not to marry…. Even god never dictated that…. What is these people’s problem if two people are dating each other in public… do they think by beating girls in public or making a dating couple to marry on the spot they can bring the Indian culture back… probably they need to think again on the defn. of Indian culture… Indian culture had always been for the equal rights of men and women…

They should go back and read our ancient epics again… Even in Mahabharata when Rukmini was being forced by her father and brother to marry someone she did not want to Lord Krishna himself came to her rescue… As per our Indian culture the girl has all the rights to choose her own life partner whoever be it… Even if she chooses a partner outside her caste why someone should be worried about that… At the end of the day what matters is who and how are the two people in a relationship and how do they manage to stay together… If the two people in a relationship are happily leading their lives I don’t think anyone should get offended about it… Caste and creed/society it’s all made by us for our convenience… But we see this same thing is getting on top of the individual…. It’s the individuals put together make a society… Society is not just governed by only a handful… we need to be respectful towards each and every individual that comprises the society…..

More than that… a person/individual can be told or taught about moral values by teachers/parents/friends/family… no one can be policed for that after they become adults…. Parents/teachers/family do teach their children about the moral values… But at the end of the day nothing is right nothing is wrong… Everyone has their own thought process… It is very important to be open minded enough to understand the other person’s view rather than blindly forcing someone to behave in a particular way….

Just check this article in Hindu.... and think on this... who gave them this right?

http://www.hinduonnet.com/mag/2009/02/08/stories/2009020850030100.htm

Love ---- one perspective!!!

I am basically from Rajasthan having a permanent resident address of Calcutta and currently staying in Bangalore for my job….. Can I not say I belong to all these places???

I love all these places equally as some important part of my life is associated with all the places… I am proud to be called a Bangalorean…. A Bengali…. A Marwadi….

Other day I went to a walk in ShivajiNagar(a famous area in Bangalore). This walk was organized by a small group who were trying to highlight the ancient history of Bangalore which I getting lost because of the rapid urbanization….

We were walking as tourists… looking at each and every small lane,shop street with so much of intrigue…. Our group looked like a tourist group visiting from some other country as most of the people were foreigners…. We had cameras, sunglasses, caps and backpacks with us…

Shopkeepers actually asked us which place are u from…. I could just laugh at the question and one of group members answered “yaar yahin Bangalore ke hi hain….”

How funny it was… but it was a wonderful experience… I could never imagine myself going to such places on my own and would have not known about the history of such places also on my own… I am really thankful to the set of people who organized this free of cost walk investing so much of their time and energy in it….

Later that evening I was discussing with my friend about this and we shared that experience that we are so much proud to be Bangalorean… This is the city which has given us our individuality… this is the place where I got a bank account exclusively in my name… I have a house rent agreement which is in my name and not in father’s name… This is the place where people know me by my name…

I am very proud to belong to Calcutta also as that is the place I was born and brought up in… Whatever be bad about the city that still is my own…

I am proud to belong to Rajasthan as that is the place my ancestors have come from. We have some history associated with that place. Same way Bangalore is my own… I belong here…

That brings me to the question why do we get emotionally attached to some place/people and not to others… Its because we develop a sense of belonging with them…. I love Bangalore/Calcutta/Rajasthan as I consider them my own… Whatever u consider your own u tend to develop a sense of emotional bonding to it… It could even be a small materialistic possession of yours… When u make a thing/person your own you don’t care of the small small things of it/them that might irritate you….

I don’t like many things about my family too… but still its my own and I don’t care of those things I don’t like about them when I love them… Whatever is the conditions I still love them… Same way since I consider the place where I stay as my own I don’t crib about the bad things of the place.. Rather I would make all possible efforts from my side to improve the condition of the place I stay…….

This is the beauty of human mind…. To love a person/place all u have to do is develop a sense of belonging to it. U will automatically start loving…

Love comes along with the sense of belonging…. If u consider a person your own you would not have to think twice to love him/her. To stay with that person u would not have to consider other reasons. Just the love between those two people is enough…..

Really do we need more reasons to love someone if we consider them our very own………