Generation Gap

Wow!!! A very well known phrase used by all of us at one or the other point in life. Have we tried to get the clear idea of where does this come from?

I hail from a traditional Marwari joint family (My father has 7 siblings, all their families stayed together until I grew into an adult). I had seen 3 generations living together while I grew up. My father and grandmother had differences in almost all walks of life. Starting with say - how much freedom should be granted to his newly married wife, how much and where should his daughter be completing her education to whether its ok to let her work and have her own financial and social independence.

I had seen my father struggling to explain this to her mother about how things have changed from the her time to his. There was a time when my grandmother did understand the differences and tried to come to terms with all the changes which my father proposed. With all due respect to everyone we stayed together for quite a long period as a big happy family.

Well things did change again when me and my cousins started growing up. We started seeing the generation gap between our parents and us. Our perceptions of life changed, our friends circle changed. As we grew up we realized we think so different than our parents and at points it used to become so difficult to make them understand why there are differences and how should we deal with it.

The reason was very clear our parents and we grew up in a different social culture. Today I am staying in a different city than my parents because of my job and hence have a very different social culture than what my parents have in my native. His social culture is mostly people of his age group ,similar cultures and traditions and very probably similar fields of work.

My social culture consists of my school-college friends,collegues, networking sites etc. I have people of different age groups, different cultural backgrounds, different fields of work. I interact with a more diverse group than them. I am bound to have a more diverse perception of life than them. Now if there are some topics where our thoughts don’t match or we don’t approve of each other’s actions about some situation it is very very natural.

This is a very common problem of most of us in India. Indian society itself is going through so many changes because of the new technology, new ways of communication, and the economic and social reforms going on in every walk of life.

A possible solution I could think of us why not give little more push towards making our circles overlap? Instead of blocking them away from our day to day life updates why not include them in? We all live out of Gtalk/Orkut/Facebook/Twitter now a days. Why not include our parents there as a friend along with the endless list of friends we might have? Why not let them have a sneak peak into what goes on in our lives?

Agree there might start some fights or privacy intrusion but can we not try to talk the differences out? I just felt that if we give them a sneak peak of our social culture they probably can get an idea of where does our ideas come from when we speak. Who knows we might be able to empathize with each other a little more.(Read as “ trying to fit into each other’s shoes and feel what we go through daily” )

I know I know I am going to get lots of bashing saying that’s insane it is just going to increase the problems as they might have problems in so many things we say/do in our social networking site… But if we want to really bridge the gap we need to start somewhere. I might be wrong in my idea here but this could work also right? I thought we can give it a try atleast…. If we can genuinely bridge this gap won’t our life be more of fun.

Let us try reducing the use of this phrase rather than increasing. I am sure 20 years from now we might also face similar generation gap with our kids… Who knows this experience today might reduce that future gap which we can anticipate?

Think over it…

Have a wonderful Christmas !!!
Happy New Year!!!

All Izz Well

Very recently I heard this song from the most awaited film of the year…

“Jab situation ho out of control, hot ghuma ke bol --- All Izz well”

This was all I could remember from the song…

Conincidently this is year in my life when I faced many situations I felt everything is out of my control… There were moments I crashed badly and there were moments when I wondered over the miracles happening within me… Today at the end of the year when I look back I have all mixed feelings. I do not know which of the situations I should give more weightage to as both kinds of situations led to equivalent effects on me and shaped my thinking ability in one way or the other.

I could see lots of random moments & comments when put together form a direction where I can look towards. It feels as if this randomness was probably planned by someone somewhere for me.

Just a few examples:

• I had always feared about going abroad to settle down each time my parents looked for some prospective NRI grooms for me, this year started with the global recession where markets in west crumbled down badly making my parents rethink their decision of finding a Non Resident Indian for me J
• I so wanted to change the way I have been living for last 2 years when I was given the biggest thrash by a stranger who came in my life for a shortwhile and broke me down to pieces. When I was putting down those broken pieces back I saw some of my biggest strengths which I had forgotten about completely.That’s when I seriously started considering my long lost dreams of working towards my higher education.
• I used to get so bogged down by the small small good/bad things of daily life that I could not see beyond them. That’s when I saw a message somewhere “How does it matter 5 years from now”

The point I am trying to make is whenever I saw I am stuck up in a mind-boggling puzzle I saw a random comment made by a random person giving me ways of solving it. I had seen a movie sometime back where an American replublican is chosen by God to become world’s saviour. This guy had joined government so that he can change the world for a better place. This was the reason GOD chose him. It was amazing to see the various ways he/his family were receiving signals from GOD, about how can he achieve his goal in life.

I do not remember the name of the movie but yes that definitely gave me a signal that one should take cue of every small thing that may go unnoticed because who knows which form you get your answers!!!

I do not say I have stopped crying or stopped getting bogged down in life but yes I have seen a change in me/my surroundings. I can see that these changes are all related… I have failed whenever GOD wanted me to learn a lesson the Hard Way….. I have succeeded when I had almost crumbled down to be not able to get up again if I do not get that support..

I have learnt a lot in this year and somehow I see that people around me also have a similar general feeling about this year…. Well this movie I talked about in the beginning is coming out at the correct timing I feel… When people have gone through so much we see a new way of looking into life.. Look at it as “ All Izz Well “

One more signal J Did you realize??

Is it not amazing???? Just try this with yourself who knows u also start realizing those signals which someone is throwing at you. U might understand some intriguing concepts you have always wanted to know more about..

With that I turn down my pen to start a new weekend, to look for a new signal, to look for a new way to come out of my failure, to learn a new way I cannot succeed, to see a new light in my life

Enjoy!!! After all “All Izz Well”

What needs to be done---Past or Future????

“Seekh hum beeten yugon se naye yug ka kare swagat Karen swagat” Many of us have grown up listening to this title song of Mahabharata(By B.R. Chopra.. not sure what is Ekta Kapoor’s version of the same ) Let us look into it deeply and try to understand what does Mr. B. R Chopra conveys there.

The whole point of repeating Mahabharata, an epic written thousands of years earlier, in front of the people was to show them the mistakes the characters in the story had done in their life and that no one is ‘Black’ or ‘White’ rather each of us have shades of grey. Any point of time you revist that story you can figure out the common mistakes which a person should avoid so as to be righteous and successful in long run.

We have seen mistakes committed by both Duryodhana and Yudhisthir, Karan and Arjun, Dhritrashtra and Bhishma. Now do we keep discussing them and try to figure out who was more better as a moral character or do we try to learn from their mistakes so that we don’t repeat the same.

This exact theory should be explained to our Indian Government’s so called strongest opposition party BJP’s leaders. They all are busy having chintan baithaks to decide whether Jinnah was more secular than Sardar Patel or who was mastermind behind Partition. Well I would say whatever be it can we change it? How will it affect the problems faced by today’s India. Rather than discussing about the actual cause of what happened in past should they not focus on learning from the mistakes and think about not repeating such mistakes again and work for a better India.

I was inspired by the article written by ‘Chetan Bhagat’ in the Times of India editorials where he writes we need both BJP and Congress to be strong and good option for India to prosper.

I completely agree to his idea that a strong opposition is also needed for a nation’s growth. After all if the ruling party does not face a strong opposition how will it come out of creative solutions for problems which the opposition finds difficult to oppose?

Had Yudhisthira been a strong opposition to Dhritrashtra in putting forward his opinions on the state of hastinapur would Dhritrashtra ever be able to continue being infavourable to them? I understand sometimes it is necessary to accept things not in your favour but that should not become the rule.

I strongly believe we should question and raise our voices for injustices whether or not they are answered immediately. As long as people incharge are aware that there are opposing views they would always try to propose for solutions which could be the least opposed to. If a solution is least opposed to means that it is favourable to most. If it is favourable to most definitely it will be in favour of the nation.

Let us all apply this in our daily lives also to be critically intelligent about matters that deserve to be. Let us all try to inculcate that habit of understanding each decision and its pros and cons. When each one of us learn from the mistakes done by people in past we move forward to become a better citizen. Let us work for a better future by critically examining the past and not try to fix the past. Past cannot be redone or undone. What can be done is our present and hence the future. So let us try to write our future rather than trying to rewrite the past.

Happy Friendship Day!!!

Happy Friendship Day!!!!

Some of us might think what difference does it make… If you are good friends how much difference will it make to celebrate it exclusively on one day… Well you are right it does not make much difference but it does make a small difference.

One day when u receive calls and sms from so many friends you have not talked to for long time so many lost memories get refreshed once again.

I make it a point to call all friends in my phone book this day every year. Just to make sure I have not forgotten some friends in my regular day to day life. This day being a Sunday calling them all does not take too much of my work time also J

Well this friendship day I had a blast. For the first time I celebrated this day with my colleagues/friends in office. Thanks a ton to our friend who got married this day. We all joined in for a trip to Mysore to attend her marriage. In a way we did celebrate Friendship Day in our very own special way.

Started off from home at 7am. Met all the people around 8:30 from where 18 of us started our long day in 4 cars. It was a 3 hour journey till Mysore with a breakfast break on the way. We were racing on the highway literally with each car trying to overtake the other one and then laughing out loud at that victory.. even the one who were overtaken could not control their laughter. We had 2 i10s, 1 Innova and 1 Alto and guess what the Alto was winning most of the time. There were people telling the Alto would be all screwed at the end of the day because the driver just denied to bring the speedometer of the car beyond 110 kmph. Well for all what I can say is the car is still in a perfect condition and is celebrating the success of its tough test in its own unique way J

We were a group of 18 with different cultural background, some of us not even understanding each other’s language. Yet we all were able to share common jokes, pull each other’s legs, laugh out loud for silly comments, talk on varied subjects. With a mix of Tamil,Malayalam,Kannada,Hindi,Bhojpuri,Oriya,Bengali,English we all still used to sync up at some common points. Shared some common interests to stay us all connected. It was amazing feeling.

In a world where I see people fighting because they don’t share a common language or culture or age I feel great to be part of such a mixed group of people. What I felt that its not necessary to have a common language or same age to respect each other or make friends with someone. All you need is an open mind and a big heart to accept similarities among diversity while not worrying too much of the differences. I attended a Muslim marriage for the first time yesterday and I could feel at the core they are also so much like us. The people who came in marriage there also were worried about who is wearing how much gold, what kind of dress, how does the bride sit and how much does the groom smiles when he meets people. We see this in all marriages right? What matters at the end of the day is how you try to unite rather than differentiate.

When I called up my friends in different places I got so many mixed reactions. Some old office colleagues who probably were wondering how come this girl calling on a Sunday were all smiling when I wished them HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY. I got to hear Ohh its so sweet of you to remember to call each year and that makes you such a sweet friend. Some of old college friends were like come on yaar how can you remember such days… Whatever be it still it was fun to give each one of them a smile as a friendship day gift and I had so many smiles to take back. Is that not worth it?

I know some of the people who keep worrying about how can I talk to so and so person just because we don’t share a common language or culture.. I want to tell them all guys wake up, grow up. It’s a global culture. To be friends with someone all you need is a smile and a good positive attitude.

Trust me its really worth to have friends from a diverse background. Your mind opens up when u get to know so many varieties of thoughts. You become a better person, better professional.

Think on this. Friendship can be the best gift of human kind. Be good to all and befriends with all. It really pays up in long run J

Have a wonderful friendship week ahead!!!

Check out Ten Commandments of Joy

Title: Ten Commandments of Joy

Link: http://gotaf.socialtwist.com/redirect?l=237654375483195520911

Success is not final, Failure is not fatal, its the courage to continue that counts...

Wow! what a wonderful line. I liked this. I quite agree with it too. How many of us however can continue with this countful spirit forever?

Ha ha ha... I know there are many people courageous enough to continue in life with same pace... But there are many ordinary people like me too who constantly need an external push to keep walking whatever might come...

I keep weaving lot of new dreams daily... making lots of new plans but to keep going on in that direction is something i am lacking... Do anyone of you know why?.. Well people we are humans right we can keep changing our minds daily with the daily changing surroundings... Its pretty normal for an ordinary person...

I used to feel i am not good when i am not able to continue in my plans as well.. but don't get disheartened its ok.... Even if now we are not finding that push life itself gives u a big jolt from time to time and u start walking again... u just cannot stay stagnant for long...

yesterday someone asked me Anjana u are working in very reputed company.. earning good money... now u might go read some more increase your knowledge in this field then? what next....

Well good question i said i don't know the answer yet.. i am still finding.. actually you know what... Success to me means having a broad smile on your face even when u are alone at night....
I want to have a good sleep every night being happy for the day i just ended and having excitement to see another new one...

Even i have dreams of being a big famous person when lots of people know me ans stuff... But at the end of the day all that i want also is so that i smile at so many people... I wish to attain that spirit in my life when i can bring a smile to someone else... But for that i need to be happy and satisfied with myself first... I need to clean up all my doubts about myself first..

Well i am on my way to clear up the cobwebs of my inner house... Hoping to clear it soon.. So that i am set to bring a smile in someone else'e face....

Let's see till where am i successful.. because i know my mind keeps changing... I hope to reach at that point... its good to keep having dreams... Your dreams only show u the way :-)

Forever wandering Human Mind--- any limits?

Ever heard of the statement-- "Human Mind keeps wandering"
What do you feel about it... I know it is a perfectly true statement.. If u start thinking you will find the Human mind keeps on wandering in any and every direction.. It never gets tired... If we try to go for a Marathon probably u get tired running or walking but your mind will never get tired...

Even in your sleep your mind keeps wandering taking u into so many different dream worlds.. Have you ever wondered how many different worlds u see you in you dreams?

I keep seeing rodents,reptiles and insects in my dreams... I am damn scared of them and my mind always takes me to them... I often also get dreams of my closed ones leaving me and going away.. I am fearful of loosing them too still my mind makes me feel i have lost them...

Is it that whatever we don't do or probably are afraid of our mind definitely goes in that direction.

I have a habit of keep thinking on so many different subjects.. whatever small little things i observe i start thinking about it. Sometimes i just gets tired of it all.. But you see mind :-) It never gets tired.. The more u try to control it the more it wanders.. Guess the best way is keep giving it the food of work, food of smiles it would stop going in directions u don't want it to go..

But sometimes it goes out of my control. It keeps searching for answers ... It keeps popping up so many questions to me.. It just likes travelling throughout...

Why??? when i think i get the answer because we human beings are also travellers.. We enter one life.. live one life then move on to next and so on.. Well thats the basics right?... I heard somewhere "Ek yatri ka bhagya sabse bada hota hai" aaj samajh aata hai its so true...

Well fine i gave up.. Go my mind keep travelling.. I will also travel in my life.. let us see who gets what :-))

TRUE LOVE--- What I feel about it…

Some days back I read a line: The course of True love is never smooth.. I shared with friends. One of them asked me I heard love is always pure when did we have classification about true and untrue love?

Hmmm.. that made me think again. So what is true love?
Through some experiences I have seen with people around me… This is what I feel about it. True love is a feeling which you get when u go through following experience…

U realize U r in deep love…
When U are ok even if ur love is incomplete... U r complete just by loving him/her

When u r ok if he/she does not talk to you… U can understand how he/she feels..

When U r ok if u r not the reason of his/her smiles… U r happy just if he/she smiles for any reason..

When u r ok if he/she does not think of u… U r happy to think of him/her

When u r happy with the feeling, U love him/her at all times.

U kiss him/her good night before u sleep
U wish him/her good morning when u get up
U get ready and ask him/her if u look ok?
U say bye to him/her before u go out
U smile after coming back when u think of him/her…
All what matters is U love him/her

Yes U are in Love… U love him/her very dearly.. U gave him/her all ur love… U just wish him/her all smiles in life. U r ok if u do not get him/her.. U r happy u love him/her

This reminds me of a very famous Hindi Movie song:
"Geet gaata hun main Gungunata hoon main... Maine hansne ka wada kiya tha kabhi, isliye ab sada muskurata hun main.."
I have not seen this movie but when i listen to this i feel some true lover had promised his lover that he will keep smiling even when she is not in his life.. He smiles because he is happy his love is happy somewhere in the world.

Well this is what I feel True love may be… I may be wrong may be right.. I am not sure… all those people who had ever had these experiences can probably share what they feel… Go on people sink yourself in the feeling of love and figure out what is TRUE LOVE ….

What is a woman made of?

I am a WOMAN
This year I celebrated International Women’s day in a different way. I went to Indira Gandhi School of kids from Sri Lanka refugee camps. Their parents have sent them to school which offered free education. Parents probably thought that atleast their kids would be away from refugee camps and school whatever it may be would be better than those camps for sure…

Well we few women from my office decided to spend our day there. We had planned for sports competetions,art competitons and talent show etc for them. We had taken sports equipments,books chcocolates prizes etc for them. I was just looking forward to this day trying to explore a new experience... When I went there I saw the kids stood up to wish me good morning. I saw they were sitting in order of their classes.
I looked at them , their eyes looked so inquisitive,so much of excitement. We asked them do u know why we are here? They said yes to celebrate women’s day.. I wondered what do they know of women’s day. Anyways we talked to them just divided them into groups and were taking them to playground. I along with couple of my friends were managing the girls while few others managed the boys. Yes though it is a co-ed school the kids don’t mingle.. I noticed that. Anyways when I took the girls to playground so many of them just gathered around me and held my hands saying we want to play kho-kho,kabaddi,musical chairs and many more. Some girls just looked at me and when I caressed them they had such a big smile. I asked them to name their groups and they came up with names like indira Gandhi,sania mirza,priyanka Gandhi,sarojini naidu… while the boys teams named themselves as lions,dragons, tigers etc. Did u see any difference?

Well lets move on. They wanted to play Kho-Kho. But we did not have chalks or anything to make the grid required. The girls said. No problem Akka and just two girls started walking in a line. Just 2 minutes and they made such a wonderful grid with their legs. Some elder ones wanted to play Throw ball and we were wondering to make the lines to draw the court boundary. One girl just came with a jug of water and started pouring on the mud and made such a neat boundary. When they wanted to play musical chairs without music. Some of them volunteered to sing as per my instruction while the rest played.

I was just amazed how simply they were solving their problems. All because they were so eager to play. Simple playing games brought so much of smile in their faces. While I was checking what the boys played I figured out most of them played running race,frog race,three legged race etc. Again did u see the difference? Boys wanted to compete and run everytime while the girls wanted to be in teams and win or loose as a team. They enjoyed the essence of playing while the boys just wanted to win a race.
Well I was amazed by so many simple things those kids demonstrated. We spent the whole day playing with them,making them draw,letting them eat good food. The talent show they demonstrated was simply wonderful. With so limited facilities they put in such a wonderful group dance, plays. Fancy dress show.. Ohh it was just mesmerizing.

I came back with so much happiness. I enjoyed my day so much. Later that day I wanted to talk to one of my most wonderful friends. I was so content and happy with the day’s activities when some incident happened and I was reminded of the mundane tensions, which upset me….
While I was just pondering over the day’s happenings, I realized how beautiful women’s characteristics are….how differently she handles her emotions and how different she behaves in each such circumstances than men do….

I had seen so many phases in my life, so many different experiences in my life the time I started leading an independent life. There had been so many ups and downs and so many times I handled them all alone ,though I was not old enough for them. I faced them as a novice, struggled through things and realized I came out a stronger person. I was a small soft girl then and I turned into a girl with so many strong facets today. I cried,laughed,bitched,played,lied,helped but never ran away. I was bitten so many times but I just took it all along.
I realized ohh how did I get all this courage all this strength when I was such a soft such a weak person when I started seeing the world independently. I realized yes I got this strength because I am a woman.

One of friends once told me Woman is like an ocean who can take in so many things yet she is ready to accomodate so much more. I thought over it. Hmm nice line but is this really true? Just think over it.
How many times u have seen a woman being hit by her own loved ones, by the people whom she loved so much. Yet she forgives them all. Not just because she wants to be big by forgiving but for the simple reason that she loved them. She just gave more importance to love she had for those people than the wrong behavior of them towards her.

Who is stronger a girl or a boy? I have seen friends (boys) who tend to run away from a critical crisis situations where I as a girl so many times just faced those crisis. I was blown up by the wind so many times I came back again and stood in front of that,everytime thinking may be that was the end. But no, I forgot there is no end for it. The more u take it the more it comes to you. So many times I being a girl just listened to people around me and gave in to their wishes rather than my own, Why? because I loved them. But hold on - they took that as my weakness. :-(
Well let me tell u I am a girl I am a woman I am soft, I am tender, I listen, I love but I am not weak. Many times I gave control of my life to people just with a trust in them thinking they would not hurt me since i loved them. But I was proven wrong so many times.

Well not a problem guys I told u I am a woman. I gave u the control but I can take my steering in my own hands too. Now I become the driver of my life. Believe me I might make mistakes, I might injure myself but I would come out being the best driver. I would not become weak and stop here. Don’t take me for granted. If I can love others I do love myself too.
I do forgive also. I forgive all my loved ones who have hurt me at times. If they ever come to me I would greet them with same smile, same tenderness, same love. Because, I am a woman……….

Whoaa guys lots of gyaan and womanhood lecture… I just tried to pen down my feelings. U have the right to bicker at me again ohh one more woman protagonist came in. But if u just look back at things on your own try to analyse what is more important.
"Doing things right in life or doing things as per other’s suggestions just because those others are your own".
Think again.

Love Marriage versus Arrange Marriage…..

He he he… you must be thinking ahhh one more pros and cons lecture on this endless debate… But really have you never debated on this??? Time and again this question keeps comint up which one is better and why???????

Those unlimited number of advantages and disadvantages of each of them start coming in…..

Its like asking whether Bubble Sort is good or Selection Sort is good to sort an array…. Man both are equally good choose the one that appeals to you…….

Same is true with Marriage….

I guess what matters the most is the second word of the two “MARRIAGE”…. Marriage is a just another way of giving a promise to your partner that u will be with each other through thick and thin. That you will love each other for being the individual they are. That you will support each other all through your life time… After all all of us need some one to be with us all life… Its very difficult to lead this life all alone………

Different people may have different views and likings to each of the process.. I would say choose a process which appeals most to you and simultaneously lets u not hurt the ones important to you…. You can take consensus from your loved ones while making such a decision… …..their opinion might or might not help…. I would just say never let down the ones important to you…. Always try to not to hurt them…. However at the end of the day what matters is how strongly u as an individual make a decision for your life..

After all we all are humans and mistakes might happen. What you feel is right today may not be right tomorrow. So guys rather than giving importance to the process of finding a life partner focus on the selection of the right partner for you…. Cause if that selection is wrong it may cost you a lot later……

There are still inhibitions from older generations about love marriages in Indian Society but I guess that’s a passing phase and sooner or later everyone will realize that they are pros and cons in each of the process…

So lets just get this basic funda in our head….. MARRIAGE is the important decision… Love or Arrange are just the two different methods….

I guess its high time we all should realize that what is important is making a right decision about choosing your life partner…. Rather than the process of choosing your life partner…

Do I make any sense?????? Think on it….

Moral Policing...... what are they trying to prove??????????

Moral policing by Ram Sena people in pubs of Mangalore... Hearing so much news about this... So many statements coming from different people... Read an article about it this morning... Why are they doing so?????

Why this moral policing…. What are these people trying to prove…. By doing such actions they are just making a mockery of our independence… per law each citizen is free to choose his/her lifestyle… Until someone’s lifestyle is harmless to others no one get the right to force them to change it…

Moral policing is nothing but another form of terrorism I feel…. It’s not only against women... it’s against all those who have shed their bloods to make us live in a free country… Against all those who are still struggling to maintain peace and democracy in the country…. Each and every individual is different and no one gets a right to dictate their personal terms and conditions on people’s lives.

What are they against of????? They say girls should not go on dating with boys… Why do they feel so??? What is wrong there…. As per law if a girl above 18 years of age wants to marry someone even her parents cannot force her not to marry…. Even god never dictated that…. What is these people’s problem if two people are dating each other in public… do they think by beating girls in public or making a dating couple to marry on the spot they can bring the Indian culture back… probably they need to think again on the defn. of Indian culture… Indian culture had always been for the equal rights of men and women…

They should go back and read our ancient epics again… Even in Mahabharata when Rukmini was being forced by her father and brother to marry someone she did not want to Lord Krishna himself came to her rescue… As per our Indian culture the girl has all the rights to choose her own life partner whoever be it… Even if she chooses a partner outside her caste why someone should be worried about that… At the end of the day what matters is who and how are the two people in a relationship and how do they manage to stay together… If the two people in a relationship are happily leading their lives I don’t think anyone should get offended about it… Caste and creed/society it’s all made by us for our convenience… But we see this same thing is getting on top of the individual…. It’s the individuals put together make a society… Society is not just governed by only a handful… we need to be respectful towards each and every individual that comprises the society…..

More than that… a person/individual can be told or taught about moral values by teachers/parents/friends/family… no one can be policed for that after they become adults…. Parents/teachers/family do teach their children about the moral values… But at the end of the day nothing is right nothing is wrong… Everyone has their own thought process… It is very important to be open minded enough to understand the other person’s view rather than blindly forcing someone to behave in a particular way….

Just check this article in Hindu.... and think on this... who gave them this right?

http://www.hinduonnet.com/mag/2009/02/08/stories/2009020850030100.htm

Love ---- one perspective!!!

I am basically from Rajasthan having a permanent resident address of Calcutta and currently staying in Bangalore for my job….. Can I not say I belong to all these places???

I love all these places equally as some important part of my life is associated with all the places… I am proud to be called a Bangalorean…. A Bengali…. A Marwadi….

Other day I went to a walk in ShivajiNagar(a famous area in Bangalore). This walk was organized by a small group who were trying to highlight the ancient history of Bangalore which I getting lost because of the rapid urbanization….

We were walking as tourists… looking at each and every small lane,shop street with so much of intrigue…. Our group looked like a tourist group visiting from some other country as most of the people were foreigners…. We had cameras, sunglasses, caps and backpacks with us…

Shopkeepers actually asked us which place are u from…. I could just laugh at the question and one of group members answered “yaar yahin Bangalore ke hi hain….”

How funny it was… but it was a wonderful experience… I could never imagine myself going to such places on my own and would have not known about the history of such places also on my own… I am really thankful to the set of people who organized this free of cost walk investing so much of their time and energy in it….

Later that evening I was discussing with my friend about this and we shared that experience that we are so much proud to be Bangalorean… This is the city which has given us our individuality… this is the place where I got a bank account exclusively in my name… I have a house rent agreement which is in my name and not in father’s name… This is the place where people know me by my name…

I am very proud to belong to Calcutta also as that is the place I was born and brought up in… Whatever be bad about the city that still is my own…

I am proud to belong to Rajasthan as that is the place my ancestors have come from. We have some history associated with that place. Same way Bangalore is my own… I belong here…

That brings me to the question why do we get emotionally attached to some place/people and not to others… Its because we develop a sense of belonging with them…. I love Bangalore/Calcutta/Rajasthan as I consider them my own… Whatever u consider your own u tend to develop a sense of emotional bonding to it… It could even be a small materialistic possession of yours… When u make a thing/person your own you don’t care of the small small things of it/them that might irritate you….

I don’t like many things about my family too… but still its my own and I don’t care of those things I don’t like about them when I love them… Whatever is the conditions I still love them… Same way since I consider the place where I stay as my own I don’t crib about the bad things of the place.. Rather I would make all possible efforts from my side to improve the condition of the place I stay…….

This is the beauty of human mind…. To love a person/place all u have to do is develop a sense of belonging to it. U will automatically start loving…

Love comes along with the sense of belonging…. If u consider a person your own you would not have to think twice to love him/her. To stay with that person u would not have to consider other reasons. Just the love between those two people is enough…..

Really do we need more reasons to love someone if we consider them our very own………