Lateral Thinking/Inclusive Thinking

Listened to aamir's speech in ET awards:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Aamir-Khan-wows-audience-at-ET-Awards-function/videoshow/5431445.cms

Loved it when he said: My mom was happy to hear that i won the game but then she said the guy who lost in front of u must have also reached home by now and when his mother asked him about the game he would have told he lost and she must be really upset.... It is so true we always think about us whether we won/ we loose.. Why do we not think about the others as well??? Would it not be easier to solve the miseries if each one of us start thinking about the other person and be more caring, more inclusive in our interaction??? Why is it not that easy to show empathy towards others and always try to view a difference of opinion more as why does this difference exist?? What is different in the perspectives? What is it that i cannot see and he/she can see?? What is it that makes us see the same thing in different perspective???

Why do we not give a try to look into the background where the other person come from? Why is it always not so intuitive and not so easy??

I guess once we start looking at things from other person's perspectives resolving the conflicts won't be that difficult... It will be rather easier to mitigate the differences... Once we understand the problem more clearly is it not easier to find a viable solution??

Yes it be could more related to putting yourself in backseat and putting your opponent in front seat once...
Whenever i tried to put my point across and people did not understand i tried to look into what makes the other person not see my point.. I understood the background behind his/her thinking but its not always true vice versa... People denied to understand my point of view even when i could see in their eyes they are getting it and realising i am not wrong... They just could not admit it as they always wanted to win the argument.... Then i told to myself i just cannot go beyond this and accepted my defeat...

Today i think again no i did not defeat i actually learned something more about the problems of life today... It was so easy for Rancho to sign the Decree of Defeat which Silencer got for him even after knowing it that he had not actually lost the bet... He was not bothered about the outcome of the bet he was actually bowled over how seriously and how differently Silencer took the bet rather than understanding the point which he was trying to make.